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SHE MET ON A DATING SITE WILL NOT MEET WITH HER DEAR
ANNIE: I've been corresponding with an M.D. named Steve L. whom I "met"on
a dating site. He is very anxious to meet with me, but whenever
I suggest a time and place,he always has an reason why it is inconvenient. The
first suggestion was that he had to attend his daughter's wedding that weekend,
the second suggestion was that he had a previously arranged vacation for that
entire week. The third suggestion fell through because his best
friend was in a car accident and he had to nurse him/her back to health. We are
still e-mailing and we are both very much interested in meeting eachother. I'm
out of ideas as to when or where it would be convenienient for both of us to meet.
HELP! Frustarated. DEAR FRUSTRATED: Obviously, as much
as this M.D. ( if he is an M.D. did you check him out onguyandlies?) has too many
reasons why not to meet with you, although. All those "reasons" or just
plain excuses,are more important to him then toactually to meet with you. In other
words, you are not a PIORITY. I wish that women would take a
stand that they must be a PRIORITY, and if not then it's all over. PERIOD. E-mail
your M.D. (after checking him out on gusyandlies.com) and spell it out to him,
this should be his last chance. Let me know, what happens. Annie. Click
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DEAR ANNIE:
I met an attractive man through one of the dating sites. We exchanged emails for
at least two months before we met. So I feel that I got to know
a lot about him. He took me out to a very expensive restaurant, although it was
located 45 minutes from town, he was very well dressed and had good manners. I
felt that we really hit it off. He called me the very next day and suggested that
we meet the following Friday and go to Atlantic City for the day. I told him that
I would prefer to stay in town. He suggested a very special restaurant in midtown.
I showed up at the designated place all dressed up, got lots of looks. There were
no reservations in his name. I waited at the bar, for over half an hour, two gentlemen
started a conversation with me, I told them the whole story. We dicided to wait
another half hour and if my date does not show up we'll have dinner. We
proceeded to have dinner. I never heard from my no show date, I did not email
him either. I wonder if I should, I'm still interested if there is a good explanation
for his behaviour. Tell me your thoughts. Puzzled, in NYC DEAR
PUZZLED IN NYC: This very attractive man you met and went out with is probably
married. A) Your first meeting was practically out of town,
45 minute drive, right? Was he hiding?
B) The seconds"date" he
wanted to take you out even further to AtlanticCity, you are smart not to have
gone with him, after all you don't know whoyou are dealing with. I know, I know,
he is attractive, well mannered etc..
C) He is vindictive, he stood you
up because you did not go along with him for the day to Atlantic city. The
only "good" explanation for being stood up is: death of the date or
aserious accident or a stroke where one is unable communicate even by eyelid movements.
Don't call or email him, he is worthless. Annie Click
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DEAR ANNIE:
I'm in my mid forties, a bit overweight and plain looking. After many failedrelationships
I finally fell in love with someone who loves me too. We areengaged and are planning
to be married. All's going well, except thatunexpectedly my fiance's father lost
his job and although their family ownsquite a lot of property, my fiance turned
to me for a loan on behalf of his father. I inherited a sizable
amount of money from my parents and it is my one andonly security, I want to help
my fiance's family but I feel uncomfortablejust writing a big check to someone
I'm not even married to yet. Afraid in Chicago. DEAR
AFRAID: You are in a precarious situation, you must not just write a check
toanybody, period, married to him or not. First verify the ownership of allthe
properties which your future father in law claims to own. Guysandlies.com
is a perfect site for that. Also verify his financialstatus. Even if it checks
out that your future father in law is the ownerand will be able to return the
loan that you might extend to him, the loanmust be done legally through an attorney,
your attorney. Be prepared for your fiance to object to my suggestions
or worse, but youmust protect yourself,otherwise you might end up sans fiance
and sans yourmoney. No fiance is bad enough, but to loose both the fiance and
your moneywould be a disaster. Annie Click
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